5 Reasons Why You Should and Shouldn't Consider Buying a Vibrator for Your Wife
Have you ever found yourself contemplating the idea of purchasing a vibrator for your wife or partner? If you have, rest assured that you are not alone in this curiosity. I've had the opportunity to engage with several readers who have pondered the decision of whether or not to introduce a vibrator or dildo into their partner's intimate life. Each individual had their own unique motivations behind considering such a purchase. However, the question remains: is it truly a wise choice?
The answer to this question is both a yes and a no, as it heavily depends on the specific circumstances and the underlying reasons driving one's desire to buy a vibrator for their partner. Given the popularity of this inquiry among our readers, I have compiled five compelling reasons highlighting both the advantages and disadvantages of purchasing a vibrator for your wife or partner.
5 Reasons Why You Should Buy a Vibrator for Your Wife
In certain situations, I would certainly support the idea of purchasing a vibrator for your partner. However, it is crucial to consider factors such as consent, your partner's expressed interest, and their personal preferences before making a decision. For more details on these considerations, please refer to the "shouldn't" section below.
On the other hand, if your partner has shown interest in vibrators and other sexual aids, here are five compelling reasons why buying a vibrator for your wife or partner could be a great choice.
1. You Don’t Vibrate
In my extensive 30-year experience working with and writing about sex toys and sexuality, I have never encountered a situation where someone preferred using a vibrator instead of engaging in sexual activity with another person.
It is highly unlikely for someone to say, "No, thank you. I would rather pleasure myself with a cold, inanimate vibrator than participate in a passionate and intense intimate encounter with you, leading to incredible orgasms."
Of course, there may be exceptions to this, such as if one has chosen a vow of chastity or during extraordinary circumstances like a global pandemic - something I never expected to have to mention.
To be honest, the majority of individuals who use sex toys do so to enhance their sexual experiences rather than replace them entirely. It's important to note that humans themselves do not vibrate naturally. (If you do experience vibrations, it may be advisable to consult a medical professional.)
Vibrations can be an incredible addition, particularly when applied to intimate areas. When combined with sweaty, erotic encounters with another person, it's like adding icing, ice cream, sprinkles, and a cherry on top!
In essence, incorporating a vibrator into your passionate lovemaking sessions adds excitement and unlocks a whole new realm of orgasmic possibilities. Therefore, purchasing a vibrator for your wife or partner is indeed a worthwhile consideration!
2. Vibrators are Versatile
An additional justification for purchasing a vibrator for your wife or intimate partner is the versatility they offer. While the traditional use of "insert tab A into slot B" is an option, the wide variety of vibrators available allows for the exploration of numerous naughty and pleasurable possibilities. For instance, you can...
- Watch your partner masturbate or do so for your partner.
- Stimulate your wife’s clitoris during foreplay and love-making.
- Use a bullet vibrator for a sensual and muscle-relaxing massage.
- Give your partner a mind-blowing orgasm without touching them with your body.
Therefore, unleash your imagination, invest in a vibrator for your wife, and introduce an exhilarating and fresh element to your sexual experiences.
3. Buy a Vibrator for Better Orgasms
Another compelling reason to purchase a vibrator for your wife or partner is its potential to enhance orgasms. As we explore our bodies, either alone or with a partner, we gain a deeper understanding of what arouses us. For instance, those solo sessions during our teenage years taught us about the importance of factors like speed and pressure in achieving pleasure. Similarly, the use of a vibrating sex toy can offer similar benefits.
Therefore, by acquiring a vibrator for your wife or partner, you provide yourself with an additional tool to elevate the intensity of orgasms. Utilize the vibrator to engage in tantalizing massages and teasing, gradually building your partner's excitement until they reach the brink of climax. Then, unleash your creativity to guide them into a state of orgasmic bliss using any method you desire.
4. The Rare and Wonderful Mutual Orgasm
According to a sexual study conducted in 2017, involving 2,000 women ranging from 18 to 94 years old, researchers from Indiana University made significant findings:
Approximately 37 percent of women indicated that clitoral stimulation was necessary for them to achieve orgasm, while an additional 36 percent reported that although not essential, clitoral stimulation enhanced their overall experience. Only 18 percent of respondents stated that vaginal penetration alone was sufficient for orgasm, while 9 percent admitted to either not experiencing orgasms during intercourse or achieving orgasm through alternative means, such as oral sex.
As mentioned in a Vice article, previous studies have indicated that 75% of women require clitoral stimulation in order to achieve orgasm, leaving only 25% who can reach climax solely through intercourse. Hence, if you desire a higher probability of experiencing an elusive and delightful mutual orgasm with your partner, it may be beneficial to consider purchasing a vibrator.
I would recommend opting for a small, bullet-type vibrator, a finger vibrator, or a vibrating penis ring. These choices can provide direct clitoral stimulation during lovemaking, thereby increasing the likelihood of both partners reaching the ultimate climax together.
5. So Many Vibrator Types to Choose From
One compelling reason to purchase a vibrator for your wife or partner is the wide variety of styles available. While vibrators were traditionally designed for females, the options have expanded significantly.
Nowadays, you can find vibrating sex toys catering to individuals of all genders and targeting various body parts. Here are just a few examples of the types of vibrators you can explore:
- Clitoral stimulators
- G-spot vibrators
- Multi-function vibrators
- Bullet vibrators
- Vibrating cock rings
- Anal vibrators and vibrating butt plugs
With so many vibrator types to choose from, if your partner wants you to buy a vibrator for them, you may have to buy a few!
5 Reasons You Should Not Buy a Vibrator for Your Wife
Having discussed the various reasons why it is advisable to consider purchasing a vibrator for your wife or partner, it is important to address the equally significant reasons why you might hesitate.
To be completely honest, my intention is not to discourage you from acquiring a sex toy.
Instead, I aim to offer some guidance in case you find yourself uncertain about this decision.
1. Doesn’t Like the Feeling
Another important reason to consider why you should refrain from buying a vibrator for your wife or partner is the possibility that they may not enjoy the sensation of a sex toy. It is a fact that we all have distinct preferences when it comes to arousal and sexual experiences. Some individuals prefer a vigorous and rapid approach, while others lean towards a slow and sensual approach. Ultimately, it varies from person to person.
We are not being overly selective, just driven by our desires!
Similarly, the sensation of a vibrator on specific body parts may not be well-received by everyone. For instance, using a larger, more intense vibrator on the clitoris might be more comfortable than a small, buzzy vibrator.
I understand this firsthand, as small, buzzing vibrators tend to make me feel the urge to urinate.
Hence, it is crucial to have open discussions with your partner before deciding to purchase a vibrator for them. By engaging in these conversations, you can better understand their preferences and ensure that any potential discomfort or displeasure is taken into consideration.
2. She’s Never Mentioned Sex Toys
If your wife or partner has never expressed an interest in sex toys before, it is not advisable to purchase a vibrator for them. Firstly, consent is of utmost importance in any intimate relationship. Therefore, introducing a sex toy without prior discussion may create a sense of pressure on your partner.
Furthermore, there could be personal reasons why your partner has never mentioned or explored the use of sex toys. For instance, they may have never tried a vibrator before, or they might have personal or religious beliefs that discourage the use of such items. In this situation, it is best to have an open and honest conversation with your partner about sex toys. Through this dialogue, you can better understand their perspective and reasons for not broaching the topic previously.
Who knows? Your partner might surprise you by expressing a desire to try a vibrator but hesitating to bring it up
3. You Think You No Longer Satisfy Her
It may come as a surprise that many men consider buying a vibrator or dildo for their wives or partners because they believe they cannot satisfy them due to erectile dysfunction or having a smaller penis. However, the men I have spoken to admit that their partners never requested a dildo or expressed dissatisfaction with their sexual experiences.
Therefore, if you find yourself in a situation where you feel you are not sexually fulfilling your partner, it is not recommended to purchase a vibrator for them. Instead, have an open and honest conversation about it. You may discover that your wife actually requires stronger clitoral stimulation or additional lubrication, but hesitated to bring it up out of fear of alienating you or feeling embarrassed.
Furthermore, there are numerous sex toys available that can enhance penis girth, provide clitoral stimulation, or introduce a much-needed sensual spark to a sexual relationship. However, it is crucial to first understand what is happening with both your partner and yourself through effective communication.
4. It’s Your Fantasy, Not Hers
Do you find yourself fantasizing about using large dildos on your wife? Do you dream of bringing her to orgasm with a vibrator?
Congratulations! It is perfectly normal to have sexual fantasies involving your loved one. However, it is important to never purchase a vibrator for your wife or partner solely based on your own fantasy.
Surprising someone with a sex toy is never a good idea. Firstly, presenting them with an unsolicited, oversized silicone dildo may make them feel uncomfortable or overwhelmed. Secondly, your partner may feel pressured to use the sex toy with you, even if it is not something they desire.
Therefore, it is crucial (yes, I know, I'll say it again) to have open and honest conversations with your partner about your sexual fantasies. But don't worry, this doesn't have to be one of those daunting "We need to talk" conversations that scare us all. Instead, asking, "Tell me about your sexual fantasies" can be a loving conversation starter that may lead to some exciting and passionate moments.
5. You’re Trying to Improve Your Relationship
Another important reason why you should refrain from buying a vibrator for your wife is the belief that it will improve your relationship. It's common for relationships to become stagnant or encounter problems over time, as it's natural when two individuals with different backgrounds come together for an extended period.
However, introducing excitement in the bedroom may provide a temporary solution, but it does not address the underlying issues. If the root problem happens to be a lack of variety in sexual activities, then, by all means, surprise your wife and visit a nearby lingerie and sex shop!
However, if problems arise from issues such as conflicts with in-laws, lack of quality time together, or work-related stress, not even the most extravagant or expensive vibrator in the world can resolve those issues.
Therefore, it is advisable to hold off on purchasing a sex toy for your partner until you have identified and addressed the specific needs of your relationship.
Ready to Buy a Vibrator for Your Wife?
Now that you have considered all the reasons for and against buying a vibrator for your wife, I'm sure you have made up your mind. If you are ready to explore and purchase a vibrator or any other sex toy, you can visit a local lingerie and sex shop or conveniently order online.
Additionally, I recommend reading my blog post titled "How to Use a Vibrator on Your Wife" for valuable tips, tricks, and positions to enhance your intimate experiences.
However, if you have decided to hold off on making that purchase, that's great too! Here's to having a wonderful and open conversation about sex and intimacy with your partner. Hopefully, this will open doors to exciting and adventurous possibilities for both of you.